DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancé has blown almost £10,000 that we had saved for our wedding, playing online casino games.
To say I am heartbroken is an under-statement.
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The wedding was planned for last year and although my parents were paying for a lot of it, we’d saved the cash for extra things we wanted.
We then had to postpone it because of Covid but we’d rebooked it for next spring.
I thought we’d had our account hacked when I checked it online.
It was only when I suggested going to the police that he admitted to gambling our money away.
He blamed me, saying I was obsessed with the wedding and he’d had enough.
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Now it’s all over. He moved back to his mother’s and won’t speak to me.
We are both 27, and I love him so much and would forgive him if he’d come back home.
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m afraid he doesn’t deserve your love. He is putting his gambling addiction first and, until he addresses his problems, you will never be able to trust him.
He blamed you to deflect attention from his own poor decisions. Unless he gets proper support for his addiction, you are better off without him.
Try to get on with your life. Get out with friends for support and do your best to put this behind you.
My support pack, Gambler In The Family, will tell you where you can find emotional support to get you through the coming weeks.
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