DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner is great and makes me feel like I’m special – but I still worry he’ll cheat on me one of these days.
The problem is down to my ex, who cheated on me with my cousin and constantly swapped messages with other women on chat sites. I’m so much happier now.
I’m 29 and my partner is 32. He says he loves me and doesn’t want anyone else. He knows I’ve been hurt in the past and says he knows what it’s like as he’s been hurt too.
I think what’s bothering me is we still have no “label” on our relationship, even though it’s been nearly two years.
I keep imagining the most painful scenarios and I don’t want to ruin what I’ve got just because I’ve been wrecked in the head.
DEIDRE SAYS: I suspect your partner has just as big a problem hanging over from being hurt in the past, and that is what is holding him back from commitment.
But you’ve been with him for two years and it’s not needy to want to know how he sees the future.
Tell him you love him but want to know where you stand.
My e-leaflet on Dealing With Jealousy – which is really about insecurity – will help you both.
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