Mother who turns off her 17-year-old son’s WiFi at 9.30pm and limits him to reading is branded ‘ridiculous’ because he’s ‘nearly an adult’
- Brit mum took to Mumsnet on Monday to ask if they were the ‘worst parent ever’
- She argued she is concerned for his A Levels and doesn’t want him up all night
- She asked whether other parents limit their children’s WiFi and got mixed reply
- Some thought 17 was too old to restrict WiFi and pointed out impracticalities
- Others sided with the mother saying teenagers need to be given boundaries
A parent has taken to Mumsnet to question whether they are unreasonable for taking away her teenage children’s WiFi after 9.30pm every night.
The mother, believed to be from the UK, asked if she is the ‘worst parent ever’ for limiting the 17, 14 and 13-year-old to reading.
Writing on the Am I Being Unreasonable forum on the site on Monday, she asked: ‘WiFi off at 9.30 pm. Worst parent ever?’ adding: ‘Because my children think I am!’
The beleaguered mother said that the reason she rolled out the seemingly extreme tactic is because her teenagers are ‘glued to their phones’.
‘WiFi off at 9.30 pm. Worst parent ever?’ the parent wrote in the group on Monday evening, adding: ‘Because my children think I am!’
‘Trying to get a bit of balance/a better night time regime,’ she explained.
‘They have books/audio books… also fairly generous data so the eldest can still Snapchat etc… just not stream YouTube. He looked at me like he really hated me tonight.
‘AIBU? Apparently no one else’s parents limit WiFi?!’
The concerned mother’s post received a mixed bag of responses, with a number siding with the children.
Despite the 17-year-old still having data, one person claimed to take away someone who is nearly an adult’s connection at that time is ‘ridiculous’.
Despite the 17-year-old still having data, one person claimed to take away someone who is nearly an adult’s connection at that time is ‘ridiculous’
They wrote: ‘I wouldn’t expect to limit a 17-year-old’s WiFi. He’s almost an adult and 9:30 is ridiculous.’
They later sarcastically added: ‘Do you still brush his teeth for him too?’
In response, the mother reasoned that her son is currently doing his A-Levels and is always shattered when he wakes up because he doesn’t ‘self-moderate’.
But others still felt restricting WiFi altogether was an extreme and inconvenient measure, with one commenting: ‘My 17-year-old doesn’t even get home until after 10, so that definitely wouldn’t work.
‘Also I’m not turning off my WiFi because of the inconvenience to my and my DH.’
The parent did find a handful of allies, several of which also limit their children’s internet usage
Another asked: ‘Would leaving phones downstairs at bedtime not be easier?’
And one pointed out: ‘Surely they’ll just use mobile phone data on their phones but potentially run up big bills if there is only a set amount given with their phone package? I’d rather keep the WiFi on and ask for devices to be left to charge in a communal area of the house.’
A further user commented: ‘Not sure your 17-year-old should be banned from daytime wifi , particularly as his/her homework might need to be sent wirelessly. As to your younger children… are you trying to shut the stable door after the horses have bolted?’
But the parent did find a handful of allies, several of which also limit their children’s internet usage.
One commented: ‘Given that the advice is not to use phones, iPads etc. for at least 45 mins before bed that sounds a sensible way of trying to make sure your kids get a good nights sleep.
‘My 12-year-old’s phone is set so it’s in downtime mode from 8pm to 7.30am. Apparently I am super-mean.’
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